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RECLAIMING BALANCE WITH EACH OTHER
As roles of a relationship are developing there may be a some confusion between what is a relationship norm and what is unhealthy. Susan Campbell, PhD describes relationship norms in terms of stages. (Dec, 2012) There is a stage she calls the power and control stage. It is the stage as described by Dr. Campbell where two people are trying to discover how they fit with one another. The process of understanding one's needs in the relationship can make it easier to communicate those needs to your partner. From this perspective, it comes down to is he understanding your needs and are you understanding his? Equally are you willing to satisfy each other's needs after understanding them. If your conclusion is that he/she is trying to control you, take away your importance, devalue you as a person, maybe what you are experiencing is more of a deficit in skills to understand one another than a marker for the relationship being unhealthy. Let's look closer at this perspective. Mixed messages, miscommunication, and preconceived ideas about what a relationship is can distort the ability of the relationship to develop.
Being two quality people but frustrated about the quality of your interactions may suggest that more attention could be given to your interactions. Do you both feel like priority? Do you give each other any stock (opportunity to contribute) in how you present yourselves? Little shifts in inclusive behavior can have marked differences in perceived satisfaction in a relationship. Where does the relationship find balance? The Happy Marriage Pact is focused on helping couples find that quality and balance.
Reconnecting Beyond Frailty
If a person feels fragile and insecure in their relationship where to start is sometimes a difficult question to answer. However it is not impossible to start your process of recovery today...
(Would you like to learn more? Get the three part series on reclaiming your relationship.)
If you would like to work on exploring your relationship through the Happy Marriage Pact events, groups, classes, or bootcamps you can start today. Call (405)748-0091.
By Calvin Smith
© Calvin Smith, 2017
Being two quality people but frustrated about the quality of your interactions may suggest that more attention could be given to your interactions. Do you both feel like priority? Do you give each other any stock (opportunity to contribute) in how you present yourselves? Little shifts in inclusive behavior can have marked differences in perceived satisfaction in a relationship. Where does the relationship find balance? The Happy Marriage Pact is focused on helping couples find that quality and balance.
Reconnecting Beyond Frailty
If a person feels fragile and insecure in their relationship where to start is sometimes a difficult question to answer. However it is not impossible to start your process of recovery today...
(Would you like to learn more? Get the three part series on reclaiming your relationship.)
If you would like to work on exploring your relationship through the Happy Marriage Pact events, groups, classes, or bootcamps you can start today. Call (405)748-0091.
By Calvin Smith
© Calvin Smith, 2017
[Get the complete 3 part series: Reclaiming Balance in Your Relationship.]
Calvin Smith, MA, LPC is an ordained christian counselor and a licensed professional counselor.
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