Should I Stay in a Relationship that I am Unhappy with?
Should I stay in a Relationship, that I am not happy with?
My Answer: Let’s explore this concern from a different angle. Maybe this unhappiness is telling you more than it’s not working. Maybe it’s telling you to address some deficits you have overlooked for too long in the way you both relate to one another.
How you feel in the relationship matters but your relationship's sustainability is not based on just feelings. Feelings are a tool you can use to identify challenges as well as evaluate progress towards overcoming them on some level. But emotions alone do not carry the health of the relationship. How you think of yourself and your partner in the relationship matters. Also what you do in your relationship matters.
My Answer: Let’s explore this concern from a different angle. Maybe this unhappiness is telling you more than it’s not working. Maybe it’s telling you to address some deficits you have overlooked for too long in the way you both relate to one another.
How you feel in the relationship matters but your relationship's sustainability is not based on just feelings. Feelings are a tool you can use to identify challenges as well as evaluate progress towards overcoming them on some level. But emotions alone do not carry the health of the relationship. How you think of yourself and your partner in the relationship matters. Also what you do in your relationship matters.
Maybe instead of embracing the emotions of unhappiness, frustration, disappointment, or discouragement, one can acknowledge that the Lord is calling you both to grow. Unhappiness is merely an indicator that growth needs to occur. Is the relationship failing as indicated by your unhappiness? or is God calling you to address some deficits in your relationship in order to have a relationship experience beyond this emotion?

I read a post on Facebook by someone that asked for a prophetic word to tell them if they should be in the relationship or not, an answer that “yes, they should keep the relationship ” or “no, the relationship is over”. This is a very passive way to say “I don’t know how to be in relationship with this person and I need help.”Let me say this... It is ok to admit you need help. Sometimes that is where healing can begin. Here’s a tangent thought... Even in “just meeting someone”, a person wants to know if this is “The one” or “Am I wasting my time?”
Sure, the Lord can bring you together “divinely” but you still have to 1. accept the answer, once received if “yes”, and 2. accept responsibility to mature yourself in the relationship. Learning to be the partner your mate needs and vice versa doesn’t always come through a natural process.
Sure, the Lord can bring you together “divinely” but you still have to 1. accept the answer, once received if “yes”, and 2. accept responsibility to mature yourself in the relationship. Learning to be the partner your mate needs and vice versa doesn’t always come through a natural process.
Beginning the Healing Process
Sometimes it takes the assistance of others trained and anointed to assist in the area of relationships. Regardless of an answer being “Yes, he is the one.” Whether new or a long term partner, you both equally have to make the same decision to accept and mature in the relationship together.
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